A new mother is furious after her husband sent her post-birth photos to his ex-partner.
The new mom said you could “practically see everything” in the near-nude snaps and she felt “exposed”, so she was really “upset” about it.
But when she told her husband about it, he insisted that his ex, with who he had three kids, has “seen it all” so it “doesn’t matter”. He even called her being “dramatic”.
The woman asked Mumsnet for advice as she was “annoyed” because her husband could not understand why she was so upset about that matter.
She went on to explain that her relationship with her husband’s ex is “friendly enough” but they “don’t speak much” and sometimes it can be awkward.
Her husband’s children just wanted to see their newborn step-sibling, so he sent their mom the photo without her consent.
“He decided to send her a photo just after I’d given birth and you can practically see everything, breasts out, etc,” she wrote. “I’m annoyed with him. He thinks I’m being dramatic and she’s a mom who’s given birth and ‘seen it all before’ so why does it matter?”
“I feel so exposed though and really upset about it,” she continued. “I’m quite shy as it is and just think he was so wrong to send that kind of picture to his bloody ex?! I don’t mind pictures being sent, I really don’t, but not such an exposed one.”
Since her post, the new mom received a ton of reactions from individuals who took her side and agreed that her husband was out of line.
“I would be mightily annoyed off he sent that pic to his ex without your permission,” a person said.
“What? He sent a picture of you, post-birth, with boobs out, to his ex? Why? Why not just a picture of the baby? Or if you’re in it too, one where you’ve got your dignity?” said another. “Is he trying to make a point to her or something?”
“This is a horrible invasion of your privacy by someone who you would expect to protect and guard your privacy,” a third commenter said. “I would feel extremely betrayed, he’s put you on display as if you are a trophy.”
But some of them argued that it was just an “easy mistake to make” and that maybe the husband “didn’t study the background properly”.